Ourpoint Live is the marriage app that fits in an evening. One person at a time, in text, each chat opening with a question for the two of you. A private yes or no after each, and only a mutual yes is ever revealed.
Next eveningKochi, Sunday, 15 November, 9:00pm. Ages 25 to 35. Seats are free →
A city opens with its first evening. More evenings follow as more people join.
You've tried the other two
Shaadi.com, M4Marry, BharatMatrimony and Jeevansathi were built for whoever holds the search filters. Tinder, Bumble and Hinge were built for whoever holds the subscription. Ourpoint is built for the two people who actually have to show up at the mandap. This time we didn't change the names.
Shaadi.com
Search a human being the way you'd search for a second-hand Swift: filter by model, year and mileage, then pay to call the seller. In fairness, they did take the skin-tone filter off. In 2020. After a petition.
M4Marry
A newspaper group got into matchmaking in 2008, and you can tell: it's the Sunday matrimonial page with dropdowns and a payment step. A million profiles, filtered by community, and you still pay to say hello.
The swipe app
Infinite people and no reason to choose any of them. Its business works best while you're single, still swiping, and still paying to see who liked you. Marriage is churn. (SwipeSutra is fictional. You'll recognise it anyway.)
Ourpoint
Six people, one at a time. Five minutes and one good question each. A private yes or no after every chat, and only the mutual ones see daylight. Designed to end, because the best thing you can do for us is delete us.
Everything below is public record. We just read it out loud.
Shaadi.com
Had a skin-tone search filter, fair, wheatish or dark, until June 2020. It came off after a Change.org petition, and a representative had reportedly told a user it was something “most parents” wanted.
We never built one, so we never had to wait for a petition.
Campaign India, June 2020BharatMatrimony
Its group runs CommunityMatrimony, a network of hundreds of community-specific matrimony sites, launched so people could search within their own caste and community.
Your community gets its own website. You get a dropdown.
Wikipedia: BharatMatrimonyM4Marry
Launched by the Malayala Manorama newspaper group in 2008, with more than a million profiles registered. Registration is free; contacting a match takes a paid membership package.
Kerala's favourite newspaper, now also selling the introduction.
Onmanorama, September 2019Jeevansathi × Aisle
Info Edge owns Jeevansathi, and Jeevansathi owns Aisle, the dating app. It bought a 76% stake in 2022 and took the rest in 2025.
One group sells you the dating and the shaadi. If one doesn't work out, there's always the other subscription.
Business Today, March 2022Tinder · Bumble · Hinge
Tinder Gold launched with one headline feature: see who already liked you. Bumble sells the same thing as Beeline, and Hinge sells it in its premium tier.
Somebody likes you. Your bank finds out first.
TechCrunch, June 2017This isn't our opinion. It's the research the other apps ignore, because ignoring it is profitable. Every design decision in Ourpoint traces back to one of these.
0%
of who you'll uniquely want after a four-minute meeting could be predicted from more than 100 traits and preferences.
So no compatibility score. Not 87%, not 94%, not “Excellent Match ★★★★”. Five minutes of actual conversation does what a number can't.
Joel, Eastwick & Finkel, Psychological Science, 2017
24+
options at a speed-dating event, and people stop learning about each other and start choosing on height and weight.
So an evening is six people. Small enough to remember them as people, not as a height in feet.
Lenton & Francesconi, Biology Letters, 2011
More
profiles seen made people no happier with their choice, and made them mix up who was who.
So it's one person at a time, never a grid: a first name, their own words, and five minutes that are only about them.
Lenton, Fasolo & Todd, 2008
Swipe
more, reject more. The longer people swipe, the more they say no: a “rejection mind-set” that compounds.
So there is no feed anywhere in Ourpoint. Not even hidden in a “browse” tab.
Pronk & Denissen, Social Psychological and Personality Science, 2019
Alike
is what attracts. Feeling similar predicts early attraction better than actually being similar on paper.
So you meet in a live conversation, not on paper, and find out in real time where you land. Your biodata can't do that.
Tidwell, Eastwick & Finkel, 2013
45 min
of structured, escalating questions between strangers produced measurable closeness.
So every chat opens with a question for the two of you. Nobody types “hi” and stares at the screen.
Aron et al., the “36 questions”, 1997
3×
as often, people remember the chance they missed rather than the rejection they risked.
So you say yes or no straight after each chat, while it's fresh, and then the evening ends. “Let me think about it till Diwali” is not an option.
Joel, Plaks & MacDonald
Meanwhile, in the world
78–79%
of dating-app users report burnout, highest among Gen Z.
Forbes Health survey, 2025–26
~2×
searches for “matchmaker” between January 2025 and January 2026.
Forbes Health via 94.7 The Word
265
marriages from Tokyo's government matchmaking service: verified, interview-gated, four recommendations a month.
Global Dating Insights, 2026
73%
of Stanford students filled in a 50-question values survey in a year, to get exactly one match.
Stanford Daily, Marriage Pact
The pattern: the services that work cap the choice, structure the getting-to-know, force a decision, and get paid for the outcome. Ourpoint does all four.
Any time before
1
Book a seat
Pick an evening in your city. Seats are free and split evenly between women and men. If your side is full, you go on the waitlist.
Once, ever
2
Get verified
A written interview, a few photos, an ID and a live selfie, checked by a person. Half an hour, once, not every evening.
An hour early
3
The room opens
We email the day before and an hour before. Come in early, settle down, make the chai.
Thirty minutes
4
Six chats
Five minutes each, one person at a time, in text. You see a first name, age, how they live and three answers. No photos until it's mutual.
After every chat
5
Yes or no
Privately, while it's fresh. Nobody ever learns who said no. Not even Mummy.
At the end
6
The mutual yeses
Only the yeses that matched are revealed. Either of you can open a conversation, and it never expires.
Every app is shaped by how it gets paid. Here's how each kind does.
| Shaadi.com · BharatMatrimony · Jeevansathi | Tinder · Bumble · Hinge | Ourpoint | |
|---|---|---|---|
| Who it's really for | Whoever is holding the filters. Hi, Mummy. | Whoever is holding the subscription | The two people who'll be at the mandap |
| How many people | Thousands, sorted by sub-caste | Infinite, sorted by thumb | Six, one at a time, five minutes each |
| How you decide | A biodata PDF and a passport photo | Two photos and a gym mirror | A real conversation, in their own words |
| What you pay for | Phone numbers and starting a chat | Seeing who liked you, boosts | Opening a conversation, only when it's mutual |
| When they win | When you renew. Auto-renew is on. | When you keep swiping | When you leave, married |
No caste, sub-caste, gotra or “complexion” filters
You're a person, not a matrimonial classified. Your values and your plans decide who you meet.
No search bar
Removed on purpose. Your neighbour's nephew will have to find you some other way.
No “see who liked you”
A one-sided yes is never shown and never sold. There's no rejection to feel and nothing to unlock.
No Diamond, Platinum or Gold Plus
Nobody can pay for a better seat at an evening. Not even an NRI.
No AI writing your messages
The assistant asks the questions. You do the talking. Every line it writes says so.
No parent-run profiles
You write your own card and do your own talking. Nobody types “beta is very simple and down-to-earth” on your behalf.
Free
Joining, the interview, verification, your seat, the evening itself, every chat and every yes. No trial that “converts”.
₹199 a conversation
Paid only when you both say yes and you open it. Roughly one filter coffee date. Or ₹499 for 3, ₹1,299 for 10. Accepting is always free.
Yours back if they pass
If they decline, or don't answer in three days, you get it back to use again. They never expire. Nothing auto-renews, ever.
No Gold, no Diamond, no Platinum, no “VIP Relationship Manager”. A member who marries in month three is our best possible customer, and costs nothing to keep. Our growth plan is literally losing users.
Book a seat for an evening in your city; it's free. The room opens an hour early. Then you have six five-minute chats with verified people, one at a time, in text, and each opens with a question for the two of you. After each chat you privately say yes or no. At the end, only the mutual yeses are revealed, and either of you can open an ordinary Ourpoint conversation. Each evening has an age band, and seats are split evenly between women and men. See the next one at ourpoint.in/live.
Yes. You choose your own partner, like a dating app lets you. Everyone wants marriage within a year or two, like a matrimony site promises. And you decide when your family comes in. Call it “arranged by you”.
Yes, if it matters to you. You can name up to three things that can't bend, like religion, a vegetarian partner, or no smoking, and they work both ways: you're only paired with people who'd also be open to you. Your partner age range works the same way. Still one person at a time, never a list to search.
No. If that's a dealbreaker for you, the portals will be delighted to have you. Here you get five minutes with a person, in their own words, about how they want to live. It turns out that tells you a lot more.
Then the evening didn't work, not you. Nobody ever sees a one-sided yes or learns who said no, nothing is charged, and you can book the next evening. Within an evening, you're never paired with the same person twice.
Nobody browses it, because there's nothing to browse. In a chat, the other person sees your first name, age, a line about how you live and the three answers on your card. No photos until it's mutual. Your full interview stays private, and your phone number is never shown.
End it, any time. Or report them, which ends the chat too, and a person reviews it. Phone numbers, emails and handles can't be sent in a chat, and chats are deleted a day after the evening unless they're reported.
No. It asks the interview questions once, and you write every answer yourself. In a chat, every word is yours. It never writes an opener, a reply, or a “Hi dear”.
A live selfie and a government ID, checked by a person, plus a signed declaration that you're single and free to marry. ID documents are deleted 30 days after the decision. Lying gets you removed.
An evening needs enough verified women and men in one city and one age band, so cities open one evening at a time, Kochi first. Join and get verified now, and you're ready when your city's first evening is announced. Until then, there are your cousins.
Six five-minute chats, one evening, nothing to pay unless it's mutual. Half an hour to sign up, once. No biodata PDF required.
Next evening: Kochi, Sunday, 15 November, 9:00pm. Ages 25 to 35.
Book a seatGuides, if you're still deciding
The Shaadi.com and M4Marry screens are our own illustrations of features those services publicly describe, not screenshots; the profiles and photos in them are fictional. RishtaMart and SwipeSutra are fictional and any resemblance is entirely the point. Photographs are illustrations, not members. Shaadi.com, M4Marry, Malayala Manorama, BharatMatrimony, Jeevansathi, Aisle, Tinder, Bumble and Hinge are trademarks of their respective owners. Ourpoint is not affiliated with, endorsed by, or invited to the weddings of any of them. Facts about them are from the public reporting linked above, as of October 2026.
